There’s a reason I don’t write much about my son Sebby’s Autism. It comes down to one very important thing: In many ways, it’s not my story to tell. It’s his story. And while his diagnosis does affect me, it’s still about him.
That doesn’t however keep me from speaking up, from being his advocate, from being his champion. Because you know what? Someone has to. Whether it’s him or another child on the spectrum.
I cannot begin to tell you the number of times I’ve heard or read someone refer to a child with Autism is not normal or unhealthy. It’s infuriating. It’s insensitive. It’s a lot of things. I posted about this on my personal Facebook page last week and it resonated with far too many people I know. That makes me sad. To know that so many feel that their children are considered weak or sickly or whatever some people think Autism as.
Don’t get me started on the people that misconstrue an Autism meltdown as a tantrum and make assumptions that it’s poor parenting and the child just needs a good
beating spanking to set them straight. By all means, if you think you can smack a child out of a meltdown, go right ahead. I’ll sit back and call the police and report you for assault while you do.
I’m humored by people that think Autism can be “cured” by discipline, diet, therapy, oils etc. Can it be helped? Sure. Can you give people coping skills to improve their lives? Absolutely. But does it make them less normal or healthy to need these things?
Holy shit y’all, if I could make Sebby’s Autism go away so he could be “normal” to society’s standards don’t you think I would have by now? Don’t you think ANY parent who has a child or children with Autism for that matter would?
What defines normal anyway? None of us fit into a perfect cookie cutter world. No one is perfect. I know what the dictionary definition of normal is, you don’t need to tell me, but the thing is, Sebby doesn’t.
Autism has robbed enough from him as it is without people calling him not normal. We’ve lost friends, he’s overlooked for parties, and he misses out on the every day moments YOUR kids take for granted.
I try my damnedest to give Sebby a typical life. To create amazing opportunities for him. To give him the childhood every kid deserves. He deserves the same experiences as his “typical” peers.
While we’re here, how about not calling ANY child with special needs not normal. Because really, this isn’t just about Autism. Yes, some kids are different than yours but you’re really not helping society by calling a child that uses crutches, or has an aide or needs a little extra therapy “not normal.” All that does is continue the stigma. So just stop.