3 kids, 7 years of marriage – road trips, vacation sex, private time sometimes fall by the wayside. I barely have time to shower it seems, before OR after any “adult time” happens around here. Thank goodness there are things like Fresh and Sexy Wipes. For years I’d been resorting to using baby wipes when I needed a quick freshen up – but that’s not always convenient or practical so the other day on a trip to Walmart I picked up some Fresh and Sexy Wipes.
Ok, so now I have my wipes. Now about that intimacy thing…
For my own sanity, I NEED to find time for intimacy with my husband. And I’m not just talking about seksy time. Just intimacy. (Come on now, this is a family friendly blog AND my mom reads it!)
So what does intimacy after kids look like?
Well, we all know how I GOT three kids, so I don’t need to explain that to you, right?
Sometimes it’s about setting the scene to create moments that lead to intimacy… in no particular order (when the kids are otherwise occupied!)
1.) Freshly laundered sheets on the bed, warm from the dryer. Gotta get them dirty again!
2.) Sending my husband shopping for unmentionables at Victoria’s Secret (this is magical, I get new undies, he gets to pick them out, it’s win win)
3.) Certain swag from “special adult booths” at BlogHer, not left in the swag exchange but brought home and hidden in the night stand to be put to use.
4.) Candles. Get the LED ones so you don’t set your bedroom on fire. THAT is NOT a good way to create intimacy.
5.) Date night. Either hiring a sitter or just sending the kids to bed and watching a movie, or you know, other stuff.
6.) Fresh and Sexy wipes conveniently stashed on the night stand – way better than the baby wipes I used in the past. Let’s be honest, there isn’t always time for the before or after sex shower. Stash those suckers in your vacation bag too, and um, your purse. Just in case date night leads to well… and you’re not home. *wink*
It’s important to find ways to create sparks of intimacy in your relationship, for both you and your partner. So you can have moments like the one below from my wedding day ( 7 years ago) over and over.
How do you recapture intimacy?