My Facebook friend and a fellow mom blogger extraordinaire, Amy, AKA Mom Spark posted this as her Facebook status earlier today: “Please stop the unsolicited Facebook chats, I beg you.“
I have to agree with her. I’m not talking about the ones from friends saying hello, or asking if you’re still on for lunch plans but the completely random ones. As Amy puts it “People who open up your chat window with you about “vote for me” or “have you looked at this site?” Like getting spam email in your chat window.”
Now, I don’t know about you, but it’s pretty dang unusual for me to click on a link in a chat window. Especially if it’s unsolicited. 98.9% of the time not only is it spam, but its 100% likely to be a Facebook virus. And no, I don’t want to see the video of me that you didn’t film that I am not in. So why do you send me links? I know some of these are a result of account hacks, but sometimes they aren’t. If you really want me to see the link? Send it to me in an email or post it on my wall. I might still ignore it, but it’s better than that annoying popup.
I know some of my fellow mom bloggers are de-friending and blocking Facebook fans and friends over this faux pax, not unlike the instant unFollow of the Twitter AutoDM. It’s invasive. Just because we are social media mavens does not mean we want to be spammed.
That little popup can be distracting (it’s actually one of the reasons I have my sound turned down on my computer, so I don’t hear the notification beep) I’m not saying I don’t want to hear from you if we are friends… but isn’t that what a text is for?
So you say, well, just don’t show yourself as online. Okay, fair enough. But like my home number, my cell phone and my Facebook chat, it’s there for MY convenience, not someone else’s. Why should I have to give up convenience because someone can’t retain a little self control?
If you’re wondering how to go off line in your own Facebook chat, it’s easy. Just go over to the chat box on the right hand side of your browser, then choose Options, then “Go Offline” You can also choose who can see you while you are online by organizing your friends lists, but I guess that’s another post. 🙂
So please, don’t send unsolicited chats. And if you are sending out those weird videos and quizzes, you might want to change your password and take a hard look at what Facebook apps you’re running.